I have been looking for a relationship for a long time (three fucking years!) I am picky as fuck and I know when I want to give someone a shot. That doesn’t happen very often. I often try to explain to people that I know when I know. In the past couple of years, I have actually wanted something significant with someone twice.
I get a lot of male attention. I am cute and I am not typically shy when meeting someone. I also know I am fucking awesome and that kind of confidence attracts attention. Because of this I have men say things or approach me pretty often. When I am with someone or interested in a guy that becomes an issue so when I start explaining to men that I have a hard time finding someone to date or develop a relationship with the response is almost textbook. “Bullshit, guys show interest in you all the time.”
Here is the thing… Just because a guy flirts with or asks me out doesn’t mean I am interested in him. If I am uncertain I have a hard time justifying spending time with someone. Just because someone expresses interest in me, even someone I acknowledge is attractive, doesn’t mean I want to date them. When guys say I have plenty of options it makes me want to kick them in the balls. Just because someone finds me attractive or pays attention to me doesn’t mean I have to act on it. It is actually kind of offensive. What does that say about my male friends’ opinion of me or women in general?
That logic reminds of the same annoying misconception straight men have about my gay men. Just because a man is attracted to other men doesn’t mean he is interested in you. It isn’t some deviant promiscuous trait that indicates that because you have a penis he is going to hit on you or wants you. Attraction and mutual interest have to be present. It is ridiculously faulty logic.
I have no desire to be with someone simply because he wants to be with me. That’ll make for healthy, mutually happy relationship. I would never date someone just because they find me attractive and the implication that it is that simple to secure a partner really pisses me off. I have been hearing this a lot lately and all I have to say in response is “Fuck you!” Nothing is that simple.